My Heartbeat

Teamwork.

Teamwork in marriage. It doesn’t always mean what you think it does. It’s not always when the two of you are working, side by side.

In marriage (or any kind of relationship really),  sometimes the one person can’t give. Can’t work. And that’s ok. That’s one of the reasons why there are two of you.

Does this mean it should stay like this forever? No, of course not.. and if it’s heading there, then maybe different help is required. But for some things; when one is weak, the other is strong. And vice versa.

I think this is simultaneously my favorite and least favorite part about marriage.

Because it’s hard to be the strong one. It starts out with good intentions. You want them to thrive and to be happy, so of course you will do anything possible to help. But eventually you get tired, and you want to feel loved like you did before, and maybe you are hurt and don’t even want to help anymore. But I encourage you; stick it out. (if its not toxic or unsafe). Because if both parties are doing their best, it WON’T last forever. And things will get brighter, and you will feel loved.

And then the tables will turn. And you will need help. And you will desperately want your partner to stick it out. Just like you did.  You need them to understand that you’re not yourself right now and to remember who you really are. Even when you forget for a little while. It might be a physical aide or an emotional aide. Or both! Either way, you will need them to be more than they’ve ever been.

And THAT is teamwork. That is love. That is beauty and sacrifice.

And it is SO worth it.

Because the days where you are both strong and you are both healthy, they are a whole other kind of beautiful. Since you have both learned to sacrifice for one another, you have a new depth to your love. And everything is just a little bit brighter, a little bit sexier, and whole lot more fun.

Guys, marriage.. it can really rock. :D

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Ps. Thank you husband, for teaching and showing me these things. You are the best.